The 11th and 10th Commandments

While waiting at a carwash/cafe I came across a magazine article by Thelma Sioson San Juan about the lesser known commandments (to women) that men abide to. The 11th commandment, Thou Shall Not Get Caught. The 12th, If Caught Thou Shall Deny Everything. It gave out a cryptic smile and a devilish smirk. It almost reaffirmed everything I stand for and finally somebody who put all the things I wanted to say but probably too scared to admit, in the right perspective.

She recalled a woman friend's story about her boyfriend's denial when she found a picture with the guy and her ex. She confronted him and every woman knows what happened next.
A man avoids the confrontation scene like plague. No man wants everything spelled out to him in full color and full detail. That your investigations, leads and findings are almost too precise coming close to the big T. Truth.

The man always avoid reviving old unresolved issues. Like the past is past and will never haunt you. It is quite a mystery for a man who is so organized and in control of any situation will simply put things aside like a cold case. Then suddenly you are left cold with the words, "It's either you trust me or you don't". You are stumped, like you're hit with a big old brick. You go back and think that your relationship is almost perfect. That you moved mountain and seas to be with the perfect man. He is, anyway, very loving, caring, supportive and a good provider.

So if finally you're in that position ready to lunge, push him to one corner and spill out all the ugly details. Should you do it?

I am sure in some way, we often get our message across. No matter how we get shut off. Men respond differently. "We don't get the real answers. Only the things we need to hear". They get it, he gets it. He would either change discreetly for the better, or continue to thread in the gray areas.

A friend of mine always put it this way. The old saying of "what you don't know won't hurt you". But I guess the underlying question is "Can you live with the truth-- or the lie."