Are you ready for the ride?

Did you ever wonder why the groom stands at the front and the bride does all the walking? Aside from medieval tradition that the father hands out his daughter's hands to the lucky bloke. Walking down the aisle means that you finally have your man and the decision is all yours to finally take him. Pre-empting a dramatic moment as a Mariah Carey video as she turned away from Eric Roberts to run off with Wentworth Miller while singing 'We Belong Together'. Just like your friendship bracelets, the rings are a sign of bond and trust. Traditionally it's a symbol of "You belong to me and I belong to you".

I actually got married at age 27, my husband was 30. It was one of those things that we just wanted to do because we thought "he or she is the one person I'd like to be with for the rest of my life". But! It is true that you'll never know a person until you're married. Everything from there changes in a few months time. Don't get me wrong. It's not disillusionment. It's the realization and the acceptance that you'll feel emotionally secure and fullfilled but it's still and emotional rollercoaster. It's exciting and you hold on to the seats as the rollercoaster moves away, turning sideways and whipping your head out in the air. Then it goes up to a steep climb and you feel all nervous, it suddenly goes falling down the tracks. You scream your head out and you feel like being thrown out of the seat or you just want to get out pronto. Sometimes you climb out and find yourself puking like a drunk. Or it was all fun, especially if you're with that person you love and he's holding your hand. You know you're okay because he's there.

Sometimes things don't turn out the way you want it to be. You become an emotional wreck. You hold on to every inch of life from your body. Then you do something different for a change. You change your hair, your lifestyle, you make yourself exciting not for anyone but for yourself. And suddenly things start falling into place. It does sound easy but not in reality.

It is difficult to let go of something with the fear of losing it. But as you cling too much you lose yourself in the process. It's a cliche, but in order to give it you've got to have it. Otherwise you end up with nothing.

It's a general rule to everyone. It's what Whitney Houston says the greatest love of all. If you're brave it enough go jump in and take the ride.